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Planet Grief may have been started by a widow, and there is no doubt that the majority of contributors over the years (whether writing about the death of a spouse, a child or a marriage) have been female, but when I read Mike’s opening statement, I realised that some readers of Planet Grief may be under the […]
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So many of you have submitted stories to Planet Grief that I must apologise if you are waiting to see yours published. I knew that there was a need for a space for the grieving to share their story without the commitment of maintaining a blog, and I was right. I have read so many stories […]
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After I appeared on BBC Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour recently (and yes, Jane Garvey is just as witty, warm and welcoming as her voice would have you believe), many people contacted me and the programme because Jane and I had talked briefly about grief and divorce. I write about widows and divorcees in my book, When Bad […]
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Before I landed on Planet Grief, I was unable to comprehend why anyone would write a message or a letter to someone who was no longer around to read it or hear it. Now, sadly, I have far more understanding than I wished I possessed. Sometimes we have an overwhelming need to say, ‘I love you’ or ‘I […]
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My married name is Helen Sinfield, but I rarely used it, partly because we worked together and I liked to keep my own identity in the workplace, but partly because there had been two Mrs John Sinfield’s before me, one dead and one divorced, and I used to joke to JS that being Mrs John Sinfield […]
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My thanks to ‘Jane’ (not her real name) for her story of the diagnosis of her husband’s terminal illness and his subsequent death. Jane’s post will resonate with many of you, particularly when she writes: Was it normal to wonder how the heck the rest of the world could function as if nothing extraordinary had […]
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As I have talked about in interviews, I had three opportunities to use the blog as a basis for my book. One of the early approaches made to me some years ago came to nothing, partly because it was too soon to undertake such a project (my journey had only just begun), but also because I felt […]
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I am always so heartened that people take the time to share their stories. Charlie wrote to the My Story section of the blog, and being someone who was widowed abroad a month before me, I immediately wanted to scoop her up and make things better. But as you will read, slowly, slowly, Charlie is gaining her equilibrium […]
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My thanks to Taryn who has generously shared her story with the readers of Planet Grief through the ‘My Story’ section. It is harrowing to read, but ultimately it is a story of courage and hope and of survival. For those of you in the depths of despair in the way that Taryn was, hold […]
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My thanks to Libby for sharing the story – and pain – of losing her son, DP. I lost my kind, beautiful, boisterous, intelligent son very suddenly and unexpectedly 19 months ago…I did not get time to say goodbye, or to tell him how much I loved him and how proud I was of his […]
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